She must know how to cook. Cooking in real has to
be in her genes. She should know or must learn how to take care of a grown up
man like a little kid. The sense of domestic cleanliness should define her
persona. As for being sloppy, that should be far away from her eco system. She
must cover herself head to toe, even though menfolk can roam around her in half
naked. Our society is modern; so she is allowed to work and support her husband
and family. Important thing is she must earn less than her demigod husband.
His ego needs to be respected. He is head of the family. He is the “pati
–parmeshwar”. He decides what is best for her and his family. . She must full
fill each and every little thing of his folks also, no matter what age group
they belong to. She must not speak in family matters, discussions or even
matters related to her health and well beings. He and his elders are there to
do that honour. In fact she should have no say on things like plan her own
family. Welcome to womanhood lady.
I feel sad and very scared but more
than that ashamed to define womanhood in such a way. It feels like a slave than
a free individual. Is there any life left for her is my sole disquiet. Social
obligation is something that we take by choice through our self-righteousness
and not something as a decided destiny. Why is she not a free person? Just
because she carries a baby for 9 months in her womb and then feeds the baby for
another 4-5 months does not make her a submissive and weaker sex. Her whole
life’s mission cannot be defined by this. She is way more than that. It’s a
total pity if she accepts the above without a resent. I wonder who is to blame
for this backwardness. The past or the present. It is a total deadlock. The
culture is openly so lopsided. All superiority, supremacy to one gender and all
suppression and apathy on the other,
She must get rid of all
this. She has to take a stand. She needs to redefine womanhood. She must not
wait for her daughter to feel the need. She must stand on her own feet. And define
life the way she wants it too. The earth, the sun, the sky and the air belongs
to her in all ways. She is a free person. If she does not enjoy cooking, or
like any unskilled domestic job, she does not have to justify that. She is
smart and strong. She must make her own choice and respect her existence. She
is fully capable to rock the world in umpteen ways. She must do so. She must
enjoy the feeling of being craved, loved, respected and tested. She must enjoy
her age, her body and her soul. She must explore her sexuality and gratify her
soul. Motherhood is her crown jewel and not a ring in her finger. She is way
more than a daughter, wife or a mother. She is more than these roles. She is more than a thousand things that one
can measure or treasure.
She can lead, she can
rule, she can care as well as cure. She is as special as you are. Womanhood is
the beginning of her life and not the end to her time. As a girl she dreamt of
flying, ruling and what not. Womanhood embarks her to pursue the same. Ladies,
your life is not over but just started. He does not have to dictate. You can
make your choice. He is not your god but a friend for life. Worry not for him, he will survive with a joyful and content life with you by his side and
not above you.
The list of all the dos and don'ts couldn't have been better enumerated..Coming at this pedestal as yours is a big change in life..yes responsibilities do come..but let not it suffocate you..they will perhaps come on to you as a natural extension of your choices out of love and care
ReplyDeleteYes, I do believe in the same...
ReplyDeletewomen and men are by nature made differently. one is soft ,sensitive ,submissive where as other is as sturdy ,stern, stubborn .Perhaps due to their nature they have opted this stereotype culture.Since long this is constantly and continuously growing on, It is because women are mentally strong enough ,patient and have inner strength n inherent soft skill to administer menfolk.
ReplyDeleteEveryone has self respect, but to convert it in self ego causes for conflict.Ego doesn't allow us to bend whereas self respect secures one to fall. In transition phase of accommodation and assimilation, coping with difference in persona and perceptions ,household practice and trends is confusing and sometimes depressing too.
Happiness is a state of mind. Ask the happiness to a child or daughter even who had rarely been fed by her mother ! Observe and feel the pleasure of a mother cooking and serving food for her children n grand children even if she is aged and not in physical sound health.
extreme cases of dictating rather harassing one other takes place by both the folk. choices of course matters but not on the name of womanhood all alone.