City life... a fresh revise!!!

The mechanized metro life leaves us with little liberty to act as per our will. The five minute delay in waking up results in either improper intake of food or sometimes no breakfast at all. An extra minute with the newspaper in the morning and we miss our scheduled bus and are sure shot late for work. In reality we daily witness a defined time to eat, pray, love, work and sleep. Life has become so watertight that even a minute laxity holds a capacity to disturb our eco system. The little buffer that some of us are able to have is also completely on the mercy of others.  Less people in the queue at bus stop, appropriate change with the ticker counter guy, no traffic jams and good mood of the boss at work are some of the many.  Interestingly we all assume that the whole setup is normal and succumb to this preset world by choice

The above is not the story of only weekdays. Weekends are sometimes worst than that. Things are mechanized there too. A random plan of dinner on weekends is simply out of question. Every chosen restaurant requires a ample waiting. Malls are jam-packed, multiplexes are houseful without a prior booking and parking area is endless. The worst is the heavy traffic which all has to encounter no matter what. 

So in this fast running metro life where every breath is measured and every second counts and also costs it is really a difficult job to enjoy life in a conventional way. Everyday is a huge struggle to find our own space and a peace of mind. There is the constant fear of not in pace with this world. Mobile phones, internet apps, facebook timeline, twitter updates etc have just added so much pressure in our every day life.  Everything has become E-oriented: E-mail, E-cards, E-shopping, E-books etc. We in fact live dual life altogether: the happening E-life and the not so happening real life. 

It is said that life has a unique attribute that we somehow find an alternative to every hurdle of our life in an innate way.  So friends lets find an alternative to this too and start having a life out of this robot life. We cannot change everything but can amend some. A small change can bring out huge differences. Let us start by making some real connections instead of the electronic one, let us talk in person instead of electronic chatting. Let us at least try to break free from this mechanized world. Let us earn 10% less and live 20% more. Let us not fear from planning a vacation with folks or taking a small break. Why not start enjoying a new hobby.  It is not late yet, it is just the beginning. Lets not be slaves of our future needs, let us be the master of today.  We must make this new generation realize that having 100 friends on facebook means nothing if we don’t have the 10 memorable moments of enjoyment spent together. Let us give time to our loved ones instead of just complains and frustration. Come on people stop pleasing your boss for a while and start greeting your kith and kin with smile. 

Let us walk in the grass and dance in the rain.

Let us give fear a damn and start living again.

  

The unknown you........

In every morning’s ray, with every passing day

I wonder where you are...

are you the smiling passer by

or some necromantic coy far away...

I often marvel what you are like 

an intense, stalwart serious kind of guy 

or a naughty cute prankster flirting with every maiden nearby

maybe a gaucherie nervous geek fully confound

or a calm composed gentleman alluring all around.

I also think what I would say.. 

when I would meet you one fine day

promise me to bear me a while..

as I might get nervous and act bizarre 

make me comfy with your smile

and I would sing you my hearts song...

  

I wonder if you ever think of me

somehow I feel yes you do

perhaps in your lonesome nights 

when u yearn for a dear one to sit beside..

or maybe when you are feeling high

and missing me to hug you tight. 

I feel I am there somewhere very near

twofold joyous with your all endeavor..

The Company of Girls...

It is fun & more than that it is enthralling. No phony adulation and no bogus mollycoddling… The license to be the bitch, the freedom to act jerky, the liberty to behave sloppy and the promise to gang again, well yes its actually true, girls partying together is never a plan. It is always the default celebration when all plans fail to take their shape.

The most interesting revelry of the whole gathering is that we are never out of points to discuss. Dieting, healthy food, painful pimples, water therapy, erratic fashion trends, innovation in the make-up industry, latest coiffure, deadly monthly periods, stupid exes, crazy women co-employees cum bosses or simply the dumb half population of this earth and their slightly known world.

Girls don’t drink in most cases. One reason is that the gathering is never a planned one but there is always a huge talk about the drinks. The  first encounter, the slight expression shown by men folk, the 30 ml vodka to get drunk and the 2 x 22 inches of arms to hold their drunk pretty women . The recount does sound finicky but the whole narration is one of the ecstatic events of the girl’s life. So it means a lot. The same is with the first kiss, the dream kiss, the first proposal, the dream proposal, the first crush and the realization of love and the first… no all the guys in and out of life…J

Shopping plans, catwalks, dress rehearsals, make over suggestion, and cursing the loser who broke up with the “sweetest” girl friend possible are some of the things that frequently create the bond and trust between us. Once the bond is created it does perpetuate for the evening at least. The evening gets more rollicking and euphoric with the addition of similar taste of eateries: cheese and chocolate to name a few. Seriously world let me take this opportunity to tell u all that the only flavor which we girls are mad for is chocolate (9/10) and dark chocolate and more dark chocolateJ. Rest everything or every flavor like the over hyped strawberry (which the boys love though would never accept) do not even stand a place in the competition. As for cheese it is another mouth luring ingredient and every recipe with the former in abundance only makes the dish more tempting…  J

Girls evening cum night out is a huge stress buster unlike the company with guys full of dissent from head to toe. Among girls it is no hassle and we all come to know that every one of us is in some desolation and so why cry, the world is a shitty place in any way and so let’s take a chill and just part hard.     

No taboo on dress code no restriction on speech code, wow what else any girl can ask for once in a while. So girls when feeling low and your guys are acting more of a bore then just seize the moment and set yourself free and land up with your happening gang of girls waiting just for you. 

The Inquest...

What’s in?  what’s out?

What’s there? what’s not?

What is more crucial?

The answer or the question..

What is more appalling?

The one truth or the shed of lies

What’s right? What’s wrong?

Who is weak? Who is strong?

Who would die? & who would survive?

Who would live? & who would sacrifice?

What is the fear of?

Life ahead or death aside

What is the joy of?

Spring around and autumn far behind

Who would win? & who would loose?

Who would smile? & who would cry?

What does the ego wants?

The little earth or the mouthful of sky

What is the purpose?

Endless inquest or discover

Where stands me? & Who am I? 

     

LIfe is ..to face it!!!

I am just a few months old at work and so the below realization might sound immature and idyllic cause such an opinion or attitude towards work is noticed only in a novice…. Well whatever is the case but I remember one thing that during my primary schooling days everybody around in the process of spreading wisdom (parents excluded) would always warn me!! (maybe in a caring way only), that there are umpteen hard stones, misery, tensions and frustrations waiting in the future so called adult life, so be prepared!!. Trust me I am still waiting for the above to cloud me J. I don’t slight the people who warned me and neither do I had an ever smooth life with no hardships... The share definitely has been less and so I seldom remember any.

The above is however not the remarkable insight that I intend to share. To share my experience I need to brief about my work a bit. I won’t get explicit but I have an office job with work distributed in teams and so inter team communication and cooperation is of utmost importance.

Finally the coveted experience that I want to share is I frequently get calls & mails from my teams and other team people saying Thanks for the prompt reply, Thanks for the speedy reply, your quick response is appreciated etc… While I have to follow up a lot of people (not all), seldom people have to follow up with me. After thinking a lot I realized that this is the reason why the share of tension and frustration is less in my pocket. I enjoy myself everyday because of this. The occupational hazards keep an arms length from me J.

Thus I have learnt and realized that frustration is never due to disappointment from others. It is always due to disappointment from us. There are moment of sadness, pain and suffering and it is easy to overcome them when we have that prompt attitude to face it. The more we delay this encounter the more annoyance it fetches. Every challenge has an attached challenge of building the internal motivation to face it. So lets be a more youthful and energetic. Let’s face every problem of our life today and solve it right away….. 

Balance… !!!

A combination of known troubles and unknown pleasures

or a long list of pros and cons scattered everywhere…

maybe a blend of a joyful high

followed by a deep fall bursting in sigh

perhaps the long waited moment of love and some more..

or a broken heart with simply no cure

whether it is the devil’s dark or the angel’s light

100 sunny days and one cold night

Affluence in misery or misery in affluence dancing side by side

all is intact the way it is..

no matter how nostalgic it sounds

we would keep on juggling in this crest and trough

with life abiding to and fro..

sometimes fast and sometimes slow….

Human and Religion

It is an underlying fact that the emergence of religion is the outcome of human civilization. The seeds of religion were sown when mankind realized that albeit the same biological cycles like the animals, we are way superior to them. The animals only possess the sensory organs like human. It is we who knows how to control it and use it without creating harm to others. To the numerous founders religion was the hope to create a moral and just society. Religion transforms us from a crude boor to a refined cultured genteel being.

Religion postulates the concept of family, the concept of having one partner at a time. It teaches us to share and respect each other. It instructs to stand for self esteem and to have the strength to forgive. The absence of religion from our lives would make us lame. Religion created the superior power in order to make us realize that there is somebody up there who is seeing our all moves and so we should not defy ourselves.

It is surprising but a true fact that religion that made human to stand upright with bold shoulders is now considered a burden on our shoulders. With the passing of time the seedling of religion has been converted into a big fat tree with hundreds of branches of rules and thousands of sub branches of duties. Maybe due to some less knowledgeable people these rules and duties have out casted the essence of religion.

No matter how complicated and snarled religion has become today we can still rejuvenate its true essence and build a substantial human character. We need to distinguish between the crux of the religion and its extended absurd rules and impositions. Cause if we continue snubbing religion without knowing its core we would somehow become the same set of crude boors that we used to be thousands of years ago.